On The Myth Of Loving Without Expectations Comments

We just cannot love without expectations of something coming our way in return. Sometimes it is love, sometimes, honor, sometimes experience. Whatever it is, we expect return on our investment. Even the best of mankind have selfishness at their core. But to be honest, we NEED to be self-centered to survive. It is the first weapon in the arsenal of survival in the wilderness or in the business world. as well as in the world of love.

For let us be honest - my dear friend - to expect no expectations in love is an expectation in itself I fully agree with you, none of human acts, none of his feelings and none of his sentiments are without an expectation. Everywhere it's ego, me, my, mine myself; even the supreme sacrifice of life may be for the mother land even is made with a feeling that I am dying for my motherland expecting to get self satisfaction for our our ego. It's a great poem.

I like this poem. Like fantasy.

that's true! but sometimes these expectations in our denial make us more human! May be a refined one! (well! that may sound hippocratic)

You have chosen a good subject for your poem, supported by famous references. I don't think there is any love without expectations. It is like the philosophical blabbering that we should work without desiring results, which of late, at least the wise among our swamis have corrected to we should work with the desire for legitimate dhArmic results. About suicide, I don't know much about Buddhist immolations. But, in ordinary suicide, the person committing suicide is escaping a difficult situation and, therefore, has an intuitive hope that the escapee would be free and happy. So, there is an expectation in it. If we go back to Vedanta, we love only ourselves, which means the Self in us is love concentrate and that love for the Self is the only true love. The rest of the loves of the world are distorted reflections of that Supreme love and demand something in return.

For let us be honest - my dear friend - to expect no expectations in love is an expectation in itself A paradoxical resolution that you, me - we - will never achieve. Souren...... you are so clever! Though I want to refute your argument, I find your point irrefutable...... Though we may love someone without expecting anything in return from him/her, we have some other expectations.... at least the sad or joyful pleasure of making a sacrifice....... like a child enjoying breaking his own toy! Great poem.... with a convincing argument!

Love is here treated analytically but gentle feelings. Very inspiring thinking, thank you, I thirst to hear more.

excuse me.. translation (from box below) : this is a poem with a strong intellectual content, a well structured and penned poem. Very good

è una poesia con un forte contenuto intellettuale, molto ben strutturata. Bravo Souren

Our brains have evolved to create expectations. We can overcome it though

Love is dealt by different person in different perspective yet the truth of love is the sad ending of Layla-Majnu, Shirin-Farhat etc where the expectation from love is nothing but torture and death.....With this poem you have beautifully put together a meaningful myth.....without expectation there won't be any struggle....Full marks

I fully agree that the concept, love without expectations, is an utopian concept and it is not feasible in reality. A remarkable write. Thanks for sharing. 10 points.