Teardrops running down the cheeks should be salty
But they burn like pepper when concealed in a thick beard.
Pains of broken heart
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The poem impresses me with the sincerity of the thoughts you've exposed, and of course, the not-so-very-common choice of the topic. Both genders perceive the feelings in a similar manner, and yet only one is allowed to show their publicly and be considered normal, expected and accepted. Stereotypes are thus created, and both genders are equally pushed into a certain pattern, and forced to act like it. This is where things go wrong. We're all human beings. Feelings and doubts are a part of that and we should not be ashamed of revealing them out of the fear of being condemned by society! You deserve a 10!
When their is darkness of pain inside the tears are changed into torturing acids. A very touching poem.
Emotions are wired into our mind by nature, whether man or woman.Suppression of our natural emotions can affect both physical and mental health. Our environment play a great role in shaping our behavior as we learn from others how to behave in public.Societies differ in their permissibility in showing emotions publicly. In India during marriage, when a daughter leaves her parent's house to go to her in -laws house, she is expected to cry and on such occasion her father and brothers are also expected to cry. It is not always easy to conform to social expectations.We conceal our emotions under layers of duplicity.if we can free ourselves from that pressure we can really progress spiritually. Your poem has nicely depicted the pains and tortures a man endures to show his manliness..
Nice poem about the difficult time in our life. Thank you for sharing.
I like your poem. Terrific opener, about burning tears in the beard. it's a powerful, contradictory image, and sets the tone of what follows. It also explains the later reference to boner-pills. lol
they said pen is mightier than sword it takes guts for a man to write down what he feels.. men are strong they said but i know men are weak..here in my country mostly men take suicide because men can't take the pain esp when it comes to love.they are weak
It happens all over the world.. Hyper-masculinity is a curse for men.. We are told not to cry, show any emotions, and all that.. These must go.. We must re-built masculinity for good.. More power to the world! Thanks for reading Ging
thanks Souren and if you have time pls drop by and read my poem He is Man
They say when men cry it is like crying crocodile tears. It means that the person doing the crying is expressing insincere remorse - either their sadness is not genuine, or they're simply using the tears to gain sympathy, I don't know exactly how much truth they speak of yet as a matter of fact we do have emotions and it is but natural to show them off.
Mard ke ansu magarmach ke ansu jaisi! ! You are right Asim.. We are always put under the pressure of these stereotype that harm us so badly.. We need to change these attitude for good now..
Another powerful work from you in your distinct style that I like so much. Male point of view presented with clarity. This poem breaks myths n rightly criticizes a deeply flawed social fabric. Its not just the women who suffer at the hands of society but men also. Good work mondal.
Thank you Nosheen.. We need to break these stupid stereotypes for good.. These hurt women and men alike.. Women suffer more because in a patriarchal society they are marginalised further, whereas for men they suffer in a very different way, and unfrtunately, they take out their 'frustration' on women often.. Not acceptable at all.. Not one bit.. More humanity over gender roles..
I have always thought of myself as a virulent male. An outstanding athlete in my youth, father of six children, able to endure all forms of physical and psychological pain while still maintaining a grin. Those attitudes were crammed down my throat from the day I was born by western media and culture. In the last decade of my life, I have come to grips with reality, the reality that you write of so eloquently here. I am not ashamed to show emotion any more. I freely give hugs, cry when both sad and happy, and let it be known if someone or something upsets me. I tried to pass these non-gender based attitudes on to my children when they were young but did not walk the walk fully until many years later.
Thank you Kelly.. On my part, I was always bullied for being not so manly because I weighed about 46 kgs until I was beyond 18... Yet, I tried to be 'manly' whenever I could.. It was a shame.. At 24, I stand at a good 72 kgs, and can run a good 10 kms, and punch a few in the face.. Yet despite this, I am far more calm, emotionally stable than I have ever been.. We need to get rid of these ridiculous gender stereotypes for good.. It does no good to anybody., NONE at all...
We often camouflage our emotions. In this regard men are trained from early childhood to be 'manly'. What they really feel inside is not expected to be shown out! This builds up greater tension inside. Women can rinse out their grief in tears and they get instant relief! Your poem as well as your notes throw light on the need to be oneself! Great write, Souren!
Thank you Valsa ma'am.. I think in many ways it impacts the well being of men and turns them into either 'monsters' or broken 'outsiders'.. Women, too, are effected by it greatly as the world puts all thing 'feminine' upon themselves, and we, as men, are often discouraged, if not entirely prohibited from helping women to do their 'duties'...
You have aptly placed the whole idea in right perspective though the poem as well as through your elaborate notes, Souren. This is time we freed ourselves of this hypocrisy surrounding 'manliness'.
Thank you Rajnish.. Gradually I am beginning to feel how badly the idea of 'manliness' effects men.. We need to stop this nonsense..
This was an important write and you handled it with a great deal of poetic strength and verve. I think that the hard reference was a natural fit- -to have not included it or to have changed it to a more scientific word would have undermined the stance of Truth you had taken here. I do not know if the site added the stars etc or if you chose to do so. Personally, I took it as a gentlemanly nod to the female readers while yet keeping the power of the phrase. I find this a valuable piece of writing and I am writing your name down as someone I wish to read more often because you have something to say that needs to be heard.