Enviable Death Comments

I get some of this but not all. I don't think the poem explains what is meant by the title.What did I miss? I would need a BIG, CLEAR answer to convince me death is enviable (For my proof, check Book 11 of ODYSSEY Achilles: I would rather be the meanest slave of the cruellest master on earth than be King of all the Shades in the Underworld) Unless you mean it ironically? The speaker seems to unfocused by his loss. His wife? Is she accusing him in Hades of abandoning her? Or is his argument with living who are indifferent? In the last stanza the sentence order is broken up. He seemed to be sharing in the dead person's condition.